Family ignoring my weight loss?

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Bee_Tracker

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It seems like most people deal with awkward comments when they lose weight, but my sister is doing the opposite - complete silence. It's hard to miss at this point. She knew I was trying to get my glucose under control and lose weight with diet before I started the shots, and we're usually pretty open about stuff like this. Last fall she was pumped when I complimented her progress at the gym. I'm starting to think she is intentionally avoiding the topic, and it's making me feel bad because I suspect jealousy. Considering how stressed I was about my health, you'd think she'd be happy about the progress. Has anyone else experienced this silent treatment? Is there another way to look at this? I'm talking about people you're actually close to.
 
Sounds like she thinks she did it the "right" way, whatever that is. My family didn't say squat until I shed over 65 pounds. Then it was all "whoa, you've thinned down!" My spouse doesn't say much either; probably thinks these meds are risky. Point is, people are strange. Just keep doing your thing!
 
I'm looking forward to when the judgements around these meds disappear. I think that's why people act so strange. Maybe she's heard some crazy side effect story but doesn't want to bring it up because she knows the weight loss is helping your health worries. My kid needs to be on one of these drugs (Hashimotos, hyperinsulinemia, sleep apnea and high blood pressure) and their dad is all "I heard it can make your bowels stop working." Like, hello, he has hypertension that meds can't touch because it's caused by too much insulin and swelling. This drug combats those things. Anyway, congrats on your progress! Hope the health stress is easing up.
 
I figured I'd have tons of chats about how I dropped the pounds, what it's like, everything. I thought I'd get sick of talking about it. Nope. I've been on this journey for a year and a half, and I've probably spent under 20 minutes total discussing it. It goes like this:

"Wow, you've lost so much weight! You look great!"

"Thanks! I've lost X kilograms and honestly feel fantastic."

"Good to hear! So, what else is new?"

That's it. No one asks anything else. I don't care, but it's weird. I used to grill anyone who lost a bunch of weight.
 
My sister and I were both heavy. Now I'm not. I'm rocking 130lbs. I'm at the gym sculpting my body and I look hot. My sister has quit 'liking' my weight loss/gym posts. It's probably envy. We used to joke about being fat slobs. Can't do that now. Maybe we've lost that connection over eating too much and weight.
 
It's not pettiness, it's just manners. You wouldn't want unsolicited advice on weight gain, so the same applies to weight loss. Bring it up yourself first.
 
Seriously, how is not commenting on your body "petty"? Maybe she just accepts you as you are?
 
Nobody says anything to me. To be fair, they didn’t when I was heavier either. Maybe they just think I'm always awesome? lol
 
Could be anything. Maybe she’s jealous, maybe she's unsure what to say, or trying not to comment on your body, or feels superior for not needing meds. Who knows? If you're close, talk to her. If not, siblings aren't always BFFs, and that's fine.
 
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People are often envious when someone sheds pounds. BTW, I dropped a bunch of weight, and no one mentioned it. Some rando said "you look different" but couldn't say why.
 
My SIL said I looked healthy in my dress at Christmas. I said thanks, I've lost a lot of weight. She said, "huh, it doesn't show". That was fun. It totally shows, almost 45lbs down and 9 inches gone from my waist....
 
Bee_Tracker said:
Considering how stressed I was about my health, you'd think she'd be happy about the progress.
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Maybe she's got mixed feelings? Like, happy you're healthier but also bummed about needing the medication. It's weird, but some people see using medication as 'not trying hard enough' even if it's the best thing for your health.
 
I hear you TrimReady. It's just... with other things she's done, it feels pointed, you know? Like she's deliberately trying to not acknowledge it. But, I should probably just talk to her. Avoiding stuff never helps.
 
It's easy to get caught up in needing that external validation, but Bee_Tracker, you're doing this for YOU. I know that's easier said than done, but try to focus on how much better you feel physically and mentally. The rest is just noise.
 
I totally get the needing-validation thing! I've dropped about 55 pounds myself, and sometimes I still feel like the same size. My brain hasn't caught up. Anyone else feel like they're still the same person even after losing a lot?
 
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