Why's everyone nagging 'bout my weight?

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Fat_No_More_50

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I'm (29F) down about 45 pounds this past year. I started at 195, now I'm 150 and I'm 5'7". I used a GLP-1 toward the end to help kickstart the last bit, since my anxiety meds were messing with my hunger. My blood pressure is great now, and I feel fantastic. But I want to drop another 15 to get to my goal weight of 135. Mostly for cosmetic reasons, I admit it. My wedding's in less than half a year, and I wanna look smokin'! It's still a healthy BMI. But everyone's on my case to stop losing weight. My mom, my maid of honor, soon-to-be mother-in-law, even my fiancé... They say I'm getting "too skinny." I don't get it. I'm a normal size, not a walking skeleton. And it's not jealousy, they're all average size themselves. It's really bumming me out. I don't feel like I have any support. I feel like I'm being told I'm too thin when I'm clearly not. Has anyone else dealt with this? Any advice for shutting down these comments?
 
Often, people react to the speed of the weight loss. They are used to seeing the old you and haven't adjusted. If your labs are good, you feel good, and you aren't underweight, you're probably fine. I'm 5'5" and went from 215 to 150, and I'm pretty darn small at that weight. So, less focus on the scale, more on how your clothes fit and how you feel. Congrats on the upcoming wedding!
 
It's because they have a certain picture of you stuck in their brains. Now you look different, so it messes with their heads and makes them say dumb stuff. It's like a weird mental block. Someone who just met you wouldn't tell you to stop losing weight. They'll get used to it eventually and hopefully shut up about it.
 
People LOVE giving advice they aren't qualified to give, lol. If they aren't being mean, just ignore them. Don't react, don't argue. It's weird, but they'll get over it. Hopefully they'll start focusing on their own issues.
 
Maybe you have body image issues, and your family is genuinely worried? Just a thought... if EVERYONE's saying it, maybe there's some truth to it.
 
Your body type might be a factor. Someone with a smaller frame can look heavier than someone with a medium build at the same weight. I hold weight well. I'm 5'3", 130lbs, and I wear a size 2/4. I look smaller than I am. My BMI is right in the middle of 'normal'. Listen to them and take progress pics. You might see yourself differently in a photo. I did. Now I get why people say I look too thin. I want to lose 10 more pounds and then tone up. Maybe you need to do something similar. Only you know that though.
 
I went from super obese to 270, and people tell me I'm too thin. Screw 'em. My doc says I'm good, my bloodwork is awesome. I want to lose another 20, and my family is saying stop. They're used to seeing me heavy, and it freaks them out that I'm smaller. It's bizarre, right? Enjoy your health journey!
 
135 at 5'7" IS in the healthy range, though it is on the lower end for our height. The upper end of healthy for us is 158 lbs. My personal goal is 155, and that remains elusive for me. I'm sure that's why people are suggesting I stop losing weight. I'm stuck 15 pounds heavier than you, and I've been stuck there for a month. I'm still 10 lbs from a healthy BMI, and people are already asking me when I'll stop. Although my endocrinologist just re-upped my prescription, so she must think I can keep going. Maybe I'll switch to maintenance when I need a refill. Your friends and family are worried about you and want you to be healthy. It's a form of support.
 
I'm restarting my own weight loss after having kids. But back when I was fit, I went from 170 to 150 lbs (I'm in Australia) and people said, "Don't lose any more, you'll disappear!" I look back at photos of myself then, and I was SO HEALTHY, not even close to being underweight. I think people project their own body issues onto you. Having a wedding is a great reason to want to look and feel your best. And even if you didn't, it's still your right to focus on your health. It's OK to tell people to stop commenting on your weight. It's inappropriate whether you're overweight, healthy weight, or underweight. Let the doctors decide what's healthy.
 
If your family thinks you're getting too thin at 150, maybe they see something you don't. Body dysmorphia is real. If EVERYONE is saying it, there might be some truth to it. Can you post a pic (cover your face) and what's your jeans size?
 
I asked my doctor how much more I should lose. The person who's qualified to know how much you should weigh is your doctor. My doctor said, 'These days, the weight you should be is past the point where people are thinking you're really sick.' If your doctor says 'keep going' and you feel ok, then keep going.
 
I'm also 5'7 and started around 215. I felt a little too thin around 150. But I'm in my 40s, and I think a few extra pounds fill you out as you age. I'm up to 160 now, which was my original goal, and I feel good. You have to decide what looks and feels best for you.
 
With your height and weight, you've probably crossed into the "thin" category from "overweight," and your family is finally noticing. It wasn't until I hit a normal BMI (not just slightly overweight) that people started commenting on my body. You're right, you're in a healthy weight range, and their reaction seems extreme. They're likely having trouble adjusting to the new you. The last 20-30lbs can make a big difference in appearance. You can set boundaries and tell them you're being monitored by a doctor and losing weight responsibly. It's OK to want to be a certain weight, and this reaction will fade over time.
 
Congrats on the weight loss journey! I'm just starting on sema and your comments
Fat_No_More_50 said:
My blood pressure is great now, and I feel fantastic.
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are giving me motivation!
 
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